The struggles of becoming a mother
Becoming a mother was all I had ever hoped for. I came off contraception in summer 2014 when on a party holiday to Magaluf (with the husband – can you believe! ‘Couples that rave together, stay together’ after all 😉)
Id tried so many different contraception’s and they were messing with my hormones so I thought ‘if I get pregnant then great, but ideally I want it to happen after we are married’ I was very relaxed about the whole situation. One year passed – I hadn’t fallen pregnant. Another year passed – I still hadn’t fallen pregnant. I now started to think, it’s been two years, we are now in 2016 and in 2017 I get married. What if I can’t conceive? What if I don’t have a baby straight after the wedding as I had imagined? The most unhelpful comments people would make ‘stop thinking about it and it will happen’ ‘just relax’ I continued to stay relaxed… very relaxed actually… but went to seek medical advice anyway. I was referred to a gynaecologist who did a Laparoscopy to check my fallopian tubes, ovaries etc were okay. The surgeon told me he would make one incision through my belly button and if he was to find anything then he would make further incisions to enable him to complete what ever needed doing. I was so apprehensive. When I woke up from the general anaesthetic, the first thing I asked the recovery nurse was ‘how many incisions do I have’ she replied ‘two’. I then had to wait what seemed like hours for the consultant to come and see me to tell me what he had found. During the procedure, they discovered some large areas of Endometriosis which they cut away, ‘this should now enable you to conceive easily within the next 6 months’ We were now in February 2017, the wedding is July 2017 – 5 months away. Perfect. We will have a baby straight after the wedding. The wedding came and went – still no baby conceived.
There was no way he was getting away from me… I needed to have a baby…
My husband – Will, had his sperm checked the month after the wedding in the August which showed sperm morphology (head and tail defects) this must be why I hadn’t conceived! We were devastated. We went to see our consultant in the September. We spoke through everything and whilst chatting Will mentioned that he had been recovering from shingles not long after he had his sperm tested. The doctor explained that a contributing factor to the sperm morphology could of been the shingles. It can apparently affect your sperm and it takes about 3 months for new sperm to mature. We weren’t 100% sure if the shingles were the main cause so our consultant referred us to another hospital to possibly start IVF. We had an appointment at a fertility clinic scheduled for the end of January. But on the 7th January 2018 our lives changed forever. Two blue lines… I was pregnant!! 3 months after Will had recovered from shingles and new sperm matured. December – I conceived (the sperm did good 😉) 20th September 2018 our little angel was born.
Florence is now 8 months old. Every morning I wake up, look at her smiling and realise just how blessed I am ❤️
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